While we live in a culture that values and promotes independence, individualism, and self reliance, as human beings we need each other to survive, thrive, and be well.
From our earliest attachment figures to our partner(s) later in life, we create a template of who we are in the world, how others experience us, and how we see ourselves.
Using this lens of attachment, I work with partners to unpack how conflicting messages may be showing up in relationship. This can be especially challenging when partners come from different cultures. This can be true in loving partnerships, or in the case of immigrants and their native born children, or siblings (who are always raised by parents who are fundamentally changed from one child to the next).
If you and your partner are seeking ways to connect more deeply, communicate more clearly, and work through challenges without both partners feeling diminished, this may be a good fit.
After an initial phone consultation, if we determine we want to move forward, I will send a joint therapy questionnaire for each member to complete separately. In our first session, we jointly review reasons that you have decided to seek therapy and what an ideal outcome would be.
Using expressive arts, we'll unpack recurring patterns that are showing up in the relationship, and in the safe container of the therapeutic process, experiment with new ways of relating.
If you're curious and want to learn more, you can set up an initial phone consultation here:
Mixed Identity Group
This is a group* for folks who identify as bi/multiracial to come together to unpack and explore the complexity of mixed identity. Over 8 weeks, we will come together in a safe and supportive space to talk about identity, community, and being fully seen.
The group has a 'flexible frame', with a common theme or idea being explored each week tied to an expressive arts directive. The content of the group is determined by group members, who are invited to bring what feels most pressing, relevant, and important into the group space.
Here's a general outline of the group:
Week 1- Laying the groundwork- labels and context
Week 2- Who are you? The inner mask and outer mask
Week 3- "What are you?" Being seen by others- finding our touchstone
Week 4- Turning inwards- What's missing? Creating what's needed
Week 5- Who am I? Considering a True Reflection
Week 6- Who are We?- Collaging community
Week 7- What are We? Acknowledging with Awareness
Week 8- Going out into the world: finding community
This group will meet online, Starting the 3 week of March, 2021, limited to 5-6 participants:
Wednesdays from 9:15- 10:30am PST
Tuesdays from 4:15- 5:30PST
Fee: $399 plus a $25 materials fee
(materials will be mailed to California residents)
You can book a free phone consultation or schedule a session anytime here on my website by clicking here
*Please note: This is not a therapy group, participants are encouraged to have their own therapist and will be offered a referral if needed.